It’s one thing to have friends of one’s own. That’s normal and healthy. It’s quite another thing to have friends who are actively anti-social to one’s wife. The question you’re asking your husband is “why is this OK with you?” Even if it seems inconsequential to him, he should recognize the way this whole situation made you feel.

A few weeks after the party, her husband told my husband that we were originally on the invite list but then removed prior to the party. The reason was that a couple of the wife’s friends found out that we were on the list, and they told her if I was coming, they would not attend. Ouch!

A couple was going to invite the letter writer and husband to their party – but then other friends said don’t.